How to Tell a New Partner About Your STD

Starting a new relationship is always exciting, but if you’ve tested positive for an STD, it will also bring up some tricky issues. When you’ve contracted an STD, it’s your responsibility to tell your past, current, and future sexual partners about the positive diagnosis so that they can get treatment and prevent the STD from spreading.

It can be difficult to initiate a conversation about your STD. You may worry about your new partner rejecting you or perceiving you in an unfavorable light. Here are some tips on how to tell a new partner about your STD.

How to Tell a New Parter About Your STD

Be Direct

Be forthright when you tell a new partner about your STD. State “Before we get intimate, I want to let you know that I have an STD.” Then tell your partner what STD you have, plus how and when you contracted it. Let them know what treatment you received for it, and answer any questions they have about your STD.

Reference Your Intentions

It’s tough to tell a new partner about your STD, but it’s the right thing to do. You should make note of this when you begin the conversation with your partner. Let them know that you are informing them because you care about their health and you want to be transparent about your sexual history. Encourage them to be open with you as well, regardless of whether they have an STD or not.

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When you tell a new partner about your STD, you never know how they’ll react. Be sure to leave space for your partner in the conversation rather than dominating it by talking the whole time. Prepare for your partner to be surprised, panicked, inquisitive, or withdrawn.

Encourage Questions & Give Answers

When you tell a new partner about your STD, let them know that you can answer any questions they have about the STD — even if they think of them weeks later. You may even bring a pamphlet about the STD, including information on its symptoms and treatments.

Don’t Get Defensive

If your partner gets accusatory or angry when you tell them about your STD, resist the urge to get immediately defensive. Diffuse the situation by speaking in a calm, measured way. Reiterate your intentions — that you are disclosing this information because you care for them. If your partner continues to act negatively toward you, let them know that you will continue the conversation with them once they’re ready to discuss things rationally.

Give Your Partner Space

After you tell a new partner about your STD, they may need some space and time to consider how they’d like to move forward. Let them know that they can have time to think about it and that you’ll be there once they’re ready to talk more.

It may be hard to tell a new partner about your STD, but it’s the best choice for both of you. Honesty and safety are key when starting a healthy sexual relationship. If you or a partner needs to be tested for an STD, contact ARCpoint labs of Elk Grove Village for confidential STD testing.

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8 Responses to How to Tell a New Partner About Your STD

  1. Jen Fallot says:

    Conversations like this are very difficult to have. Remember you’re not alone, and a lot of people have to have this exact conversation. If you truly care, they’ll respect you for it.

  2. Marvin Somlo says:

    Conversations like this are not the easiest to have. There are so many feelings that are involved, it’s hard to stay calm and collected. Being true to yourself, honest and open may not seem like a great way to approach this situation, but in the end you’ll feel better.

  3. Jim Thomas says:

    Nobody really wants to have a conversation about this. Unfortunately it happens. Being direct is a great place to start, and being open will ensure trust within the relationship. You should feel comfortable after the talk, and allow for communication.

  4. If you truly care about your partner and value your relationship it’s better to just be direct and to the point. You may need to give them space, but these tips will help build confidence.

  5. There are certain things you may not want to talk about to a partner, but this is something that needs to be addressed pretty quickly.

  6. Jim Thomas says:

    Giving the person time to consider the situation is very important. You don’t want to influence that person into doing something that they may not want to do. It’s better if both parties are honest.

  7. Eli Akins says:

    Talking about any personal matter can be difficult for a lot of people. It’s best to be honest, but finding the right time is crucial as well.

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